How Do I Truly Surrender to Christ When Everything Feels Like It’s Falling Apart?
There have been seasons in my life where it felt like everything was unraveling at once.
No matter how hard I worked, the bills still didn’t add up. The stress of finances sat heavy on my chest. As a single parent, it felt like the weight of the world rested squarely on my shoulders; and if I didn’t figure it out, no one else would.
I remember lying awake at night, replaying every “what if” in my mind.
What if I can’t make this work? What if I fail my kids? What if I make the wrong decision?
I carried the belief that it was all my responsibility. That I had to fix everything. That trusting God meant still doing it all on my own… just with prayer sprinkled in.
And honestly? That kind of “trust” left me exhausted.
Surrender sounded beautiful in theory, but terrifying in real life.
Because surrender meant loosening my grip.
It meant admitting I couldn’t do it all.
It meant sitting still in prayer when my to-do list was screaming at me and time felt like it was slipping away.
There were days when prayer felt like a luxury I couldn’t afford.
Laundry to do. Work to get to. Kids who needed me. Problems waiting to be solved.
How could I slow down when everything felt so urgent?
But here’s what God gently taught me:
When things were at their darkest… when I truly couldn’t see a way forward… God made a way.
Not always immediately. Not always how I expected. But always faithfully.
Scripture reminds us:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5–6
True surrender isn’t giving God what’s left after you’ve exhausted yourself.
It’s choosing to hand Him the weight before it crushes you.
I had to learn that surrender didn’t mean I stopped being responsible; it meant I stopped believing everything depended on me alone.
And friend, that shift changed everything.
If you’re struggling to truly surrender to Christ right now, here are a few things that helped me:
1. Start with honest prayer.
Some of my most powerful prayers weren’t polished - they were desperate. “God, I can’t do this anymore. I need You.”
2. Give God the first moments of your day (even if it’s just five minutes).
I learned that sitting in prayer, even briefly, grounded me for everything that followed. God can do more in five surrendered minutes than I can do in hours of anxious striving.
3. Release the belief that everything is your responsibility.
Yes, we show up. Yes, we do our part. But the outcome belongs to God. You were never meant to carry it all.
4. Remember past faithfulness.
When fear creeps in, I remind myself of all the times God made a way when there was no way. If He did it before, He will do it again.
5. Choose trust daily not perfectly.
Surrender isn’t a one-time decision. It’s a daily choice to hand the pressure back to God, again and again.
If you’re reading this while feeling overwhelmed, stretched thin, or like you’re one step away from breaking, I want you to know this:
You are not failing.
You are not alone.
And you do not have to carry this by yourself.
God sees you. He knows the weight you’re carrying. And He is more than able to hold what you cannot.
Let go, sweet friend. God is faithful.
He will make a way. 🤍🙏🏽